Remembering heals.
Remembering forgives.
Remembering creates appreciation and gratitude – two
of the most wondrous salves for your sorrows.
People sometimes think that they will feel better by
denying their grief and refusing to remember what has caused it. In some cases
and at certain times, that may be true.
As your life continues to demand that you support
yourself, care for others, and be out and about in the world, you may need to
place your memories on hold.
But grief is like a bill collector:
You can delay facing it, but if you do so for too
long, it will come to meet you at your front door.
Grief will have its day, whether you consciously allow
it to or not.
So it is in your best interest to heal the wounds of
grief with remembrance.
Refusing to remember can cause bitterness, pain, and
anger to appear to fade away.
But buried grief lies in wait and pounces
unexpectedly.
Buried grief casts an invisible veil of sadness over
every future relationship.
It whispers that to love means to suffer.
It convinces you that life offers nothing but despair.
The dammed-up river of unresolved grief makes it easier
for each subsequent loss to burst through your defenses.
With organic grieving, you will not bury your grief.
Instead, you will allow the rhythms of your emotions
to ebb and flow naturally. By giving yourself the gift of remembering your animal
companion, grief will seep back into and enrich the soil of your life instead
of creating poisonous wells of unresolved sadness inside you.
(Allen and Linda Anderson,
Reprinted with permission. All rights reserved. From "Saying Goodbye to Your Angel Animals" by Allen and Linda Anderson, published by New World Library, 2005, 2008, USA.)
I would like to thank Linda and Allen Anderson for their kind permission to publish their writing on my blog.
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I would like to thank Linda and Allen Anderson for their kind permission to publish their writing on my blog.
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